After decades of reading about, treating, and often cursing this challenging illness called fibromyalgia, one significant thing I’ve learned is that pain has two parts: There’s the actual physical sensation and then the feeling about that physical sensation.
The physical sensation usually is measured on a severity scale of 1- 10 and includes a longevity factor (how long you’ve experienced this unpleasantness).
In other words, there’s pain and then there’s the reaction to pain.
In many cases, we are powerless to control the physical sensation. Sometimes, all the treatments we generally employ — heat, ice, medication, meditation, yoga, massage, acupuncture, and aromatherapy — just don’t do it. Or, they don’t do it quickly enough. That’s when the going gets tough. But that’s when we need to think about other options.
Once we realize we are powerless to change our physical condition, the options become psychological, or perhaps even spiritual, in nature. One choice is to be angry about the pain. The thing to know about anger is that it’s always a secondary emotion. When we’re in pain, the primary emotion for most of us is likely fear — that it will get worse or that it won’t stop.