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Intimacy and Multiple Sclerosis: A Lesson in Discovery – Multiple Sclerosis News Today

Saturday, 23 March, 2019

Intimacy and Multiple Sclerosis: A Lesson in Discovery – Multiple Sclerosis News Today

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Living with secondary progressive multiple sclerosis is a lesson in discovery. I strive to manage life with MS one day at a time. My disease touches all aspects of my life. One of the elements it affects is intimacy: closeness, affinity, warmth, trust, and mutual affection. Intimacy is friendliness, comradery, and understanding — it is also sensuality and the act of sex.

MS does not quash the need for intimacy; they are not mutually exclusive. They are, however, sometimes elusive. Physical and psychological obstacles can diminish our capabilities, but our needs and desires are still alive.

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Disease-related changes in our nerve pathways affect desire and arousal. Stimulation can be painful and the ability to orgasm severely diminished. Sexual pleasure can decrease due to pain, numbness, fragility, spasticity, muscle weakness, or fatigue. Bodily changes make us shy: Changes in weight, lack of mobility, and fear of rejection create psychological barriers.

I liken this situation to a third party in a relationship infecting our ability to stay close. This third entity is omnipresent and invasive, creating a chasm between the other two parties. What can we do when the sexual aspect of intimacy appears to have disappeared?

We redefine intimacy.

Affinity with another is unique. The beauty of intimacy is that it entails more than physicality. Redefine intimacy to fit your abilities and desires. As my disease progresses, I find closeness in a variety of activities. I love to laugh. Tell me a joke and I am yours. I feel close to my husband when we laugh together.

Emotional intimacy is vital. Be vulnerable and discuss difficult topics. Establish mutual needs and ways to attain them. Carve out time to be together. Discover one another again and remember why you fell in love. Join your partner in what makes him or her happy, then reciprocate.

Read more at: https://multiplesclerosisnewstoday.com/2019/03/21/intimacy-ms-lesson-discovery/

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